1. Is pegging only for butts or can vaginas get pegged too?
Iâm not a pegging purist.
When the term originated in my column â when my readers selected âpeggingâ as the name for a woman fucking a man in the ass with a strap-on dildo â it was gendered; pegging was something a woman did to a man. But now people use âpeggingâ to mean someone any gender fucking someone of any gender in the ass with a strap-on dildo, an evolution I fully support. But I do think having a term that specifically refers to a particular and popular kind of ass fucking is a good thing. Nevertheless, meaning follows use, and I am not the boss of the English language. âLanguage is, by its nature, majority-rule,â as Tamar Haspel noted over at The Atlantic this week, â[and] a wordâs meaning changes when enough people use it in its new, changed way.â So, if people start using pegging to refer to any kind of penetrative sex that involves a dildo and a dildo harness, I wonât be mounting a legal challenge.
2. Best sex position for celebrating the NY verdict?
Not sure â but it should be something you canât get away with doing even once, let alone 34 times.
3. Iâm a unicorn to a hot married couple that lives a few hours away. I came up for her birthday and a fun party. For the first time, the sex was off. The wife and I had our usual hot time, but the husband seemed to ignore me and focused only on his wife. I left feeling rejected. I called and said itâs ok if he wants to fuck his wife, but why was I there then? He apologized and assured me heâs still attracted to me and wants me to come back. Should I go back?
Maybe the husband felt his wife should be the center of attention on her birthday⌠or maybe you were the center of attention the last ten times, and his wife asked to be the center of attention on her birthday. Either way, if the husband had a plan to focus things on the wife for a change, he shouldâve shared that plan with you in advance. But if the sex was good every other time, I think you should give them another go. If you expect to be the center of attention during every threesome, you should share that expectation with them â but in all honesty, I donât think thatâs a realistic expectation. A one-off threesome with a couple? Youâre the very special guest star and you should be the center of attention. A relationship with a couple that involves lots of threesomes? Everyone gets to be the center of attention once in a while.
